We've Forgotten What is Sacred

Commitment

Commitment.  It can be a terrifying word.  It haunts you and floats around as a taunting reminder that there is no turning back, no matter how hard you try.  You’re stuck.  What a miserable perception?

This is commonly applied to relationships.  What if it doesn’t work out, but I’m already in too deep?  I’ve personally had experience where I stopped feeling that “spark” while the guy continued to spill sweet words all over me.  Instead of sweeping me off my feet, they drowned me.  I know it pained him like crazy, but I don’t think people realize how badly it hurt to hear someone say, “I love you,” and be unable to return the feelings.  How it feels when he even asks, “Do you still love me?” and it breaks your heart to say, with tears streaming down your face, “no.”  You had once started planning a future, and now you have no clue where you even stand at this very moment.  To know that feelings were there at one time, and for some unexplainable reason they left.  You can’t even define the moment they vanished, they just somehow along the way disappeared, and you have no idea how to get them back.

So that’s over and you’re moving on.  But what if that same exact thing happens again?  You’re falling for this absolutely amazing guy.  But you’re so young and nothing seems constant.  You’ve got your whole life ahead of you and so far no plans.  On top of that there’s that relationship that didn’t work out.  And just for kicks, let’s throw in a set of divorced parents so you don’t really see that commitment really lasts forever.  Now what do we have?  A teenage girl crying in her bed.  Over what?  A boyfriend who is committed and telling her sweet nothings?  Oh, how terrible.  But I just can’t stand the though of hurting someone I care about so, so much.

But these feelings aren’t promised to last forever. Although we search and long for a promise of eternity, that’s impossible with just two people, even if they are “in love.”  Instead, the two cannot only focus on each other, but they must strive to keep their focus on Christ.  Christian love comes from the Holy Spirit.  “But the fruit of the Spirit is love…” Galatians 5:22.  It’s an action and an attitude, not just an emotion.  Love is a by-product of our new life in Christ.  Therefore, Christian love is a decision to act in the best interest of others.  “Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.  Love never fails.”  1 Corinthians 13:4-8

If it’s just a feeling, then it probably won’t last.  It requires something else.  It has to be something blessed by God.  I guess I tend to leave that part out of the picture.  Sometimes I take full responsibility for everything and I forget that it must be His will. If He doesn’t want it to happen, it won’t.  Simple as that.  Eventually, He’ll lead both persons down the path He’s chosen for them.  Yeah, the two may be hurt and confused at first, but in the end, they’ll end up where they need to be.  After all, His plan is far greater than ours could ever be.

So don’t freak out about a guy, commitment, or pain that may result in the future.  Be happy.  Live life.  Love unselfishly.  But most importantly, do it all for the glory of God; seek Him first and He will take care of you (Matthew 6:33).

He makes me so so happy :))